Body Language

There is an appropriate timing and place for every act of body language.  Most of the time,

we are oblivious to the messages we convey through our body gestures and movements. We could

give negative signals that might offend other people without intending to do so. There are

gestures that we indeed have to avoid, but it may require discipline and practice for the

very reason that we may have been used to performing this negative acts in our daily lives.

It is very important for one to be observant of his body language, and those of other people

as well. You can read other people by learning how to understand how they act and move. But

you must also be aware that there are people who know how to interpret body language, and

somebody may already be reading you now. Thus, be cautious of actions by knowing when to use

them and what to avoid.

At Work

It is always relevant to be in your best self at work. By doing so, you can impress your

boss and please clients. Simply be confident when facing somebody. If you are relaxed, other

people would not regard you as overconfident. Show them you truly know what you are talking

about by maintaining good posture, eye contact and using appropriate hand gestures.

During A Date

How can you give signs that you are indeed attracted to another person without telling them

verbally how you really feel? The solution is simple. Talk with your eyes and match it with

a bright smile. These two are enough to let somebody know you are indeed enjoying his or her

company.

You would know that the date is going well when signals of flirtation are present. A woman

would tend to touch her hair, lick her lips, eat or drink slowly, and preen. Meanwhile, a

man would usually wink, close the distance between them, lean forward, and stand tall.

Bottom line is both sexes want to impress their partner by showing the masculinity or

sexiness through actions. And these signs are indeed just the beginning of a higher level in

the relationship.

Acts You Must Practice To Avoid

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There are many kinds of gestures that you must practice to avoid. At work, try to hide your

anxiety or tension by avoiding fidgeting, trembling, or shaking. Avoid excessive hand

movements when talking, since this could distract others from focusing on your statements.

Avoid also excessive blinking; this shows you are are uneasy and nervous. Stop looking at

your watch or the clock. This is very rude since you are giving an impression that you want

to end the interaction right away.  Do not stroke you chin, lean on an elbow, and fake a

smile.

When on a date, it would be much more polite if you directly say “no” rather than showing

signals of rudeness to the person if you are uninterested or getting bored. Do not sigh,

look at other people other than your partner, slouch, and prop your head on your hands.

Observe Cultural Differences

The appropriate use of body language also depend on where you are and who you are

interacting with. You may be talking to somebody with a very conservative culture and

regards some gestures rude and disrespectful, even if they are normally used in your place.

It is very essential to have the ability to read and understand another person’s body

language. Listening only to the words the other person is saying is not always enough. His

or her body language can always tell if that person is being honest in what she is saying

and what she really feels deep inside.

Body language entails the gestures and movements involving the body, from head to foot. Each

signal of body language may have different meanings, depending on the situation in which it

was delivered.

Head

You can signal yes or no by the movement of the head. Nodding usually means “yes” or “I

agree”. But in other countries such as Yugoslavia and Turkey, it sometimes means “no”.

Tilting the head backwards or to the side indicates that the person is thinking deeply or

considering a though or idea.

Face (Eyes, Nose, Lips)

Facial expressions are obvious visible signs of how someone truly feels, however there are

some people who have practiced to take control of their facial expressions by making them

somewhat expressionless or passive.

Even with an inexpressive face, nobody could miss what is being expressed through the eyes.

The eyes can speak volumes given any circumstance. Eye contact is a strong indication of

focus of attention, interest, attraction, and honesty. You can spot somebody lying to you if

he or she cannot hold an eye contact for a period of time. When the eyes would look away, it

signifies lack of interest, dishonesty, and boredom.  But there are times when looking away

signifies attraction or simply an occurrence of a slight distraction, for as long as the

person will look back to the person he is talking to.

Touching or rubbing the nose is one of the most common self-touching gestures, which is

usually done by people who are lying or trying to hide something. Blowing of the nose is a

gesture seen as rude by most countries, but it is considered as healthy in some countries in

Asia.

Licking or biting the lips is one of the typical signals of flirting done by women. Kissing

is a gesture to show one’s affection, and also used as a form of greeting. But there are

conservative countries, particularly in Asia, which do not allow public display of affection

such as kissing.  And in some cultures like in the Philippines and  Puerto Rico, the lips

are used for pointing instead of the finger.

Arms And Hands

There are plenty different hand gestures, and each one has different meanings. The most

common hand gestures are hands-in-the-pocket, arms crossed over the chest, hands on the

waist, and handshakes. The first one may indicate nervousness or lack of interest. Crossing

the arms signifies a defensive posture, and it may also mean doubt or suspicion of what the

other person is saying. The hands on the waist may indicate anger or fury, but men also do

this to show their masculinity. A handshake, meanwhile, is a form of greeting in most

countries.

Legs And Feet

Crossing the legs are done by most people, especially women. Most of the time, it is done as

a comfortable position. However, there are countries that regard this action as rude.

The Misuse Of The Ability

The ability of reading someone’s body gestures sometimes is not reliable. The gestures

performed by a person that are regarded as rude by other people maybe just habits of that

person without the intention of being rude.

How can you tell that a person is already falling in love with you? A person’s body language

can spell out his or her true feelings and intentions for you. A person in love has that

certain glow every time he or she is with that special person, but what are the other signs?

You will notice that a person is already falling for you if he can’t stand being far from

you, gives more smiles and laughter, mirror your actions, cannot keep his eyes off you, and

have that certain glow.

Personal Space And Distance

A person in love with you would look for several ways just to be closer to you. You will

know that a person’s personal space has gotten smaller when he or she gets comfortable with

you even in the slightest distance. And notice if in a room full of people, he will always

try to stay close to you.

That person would also tend to lean his body towards you, whether when sitting down or

standing up. The direction of his or her body would be always turned towards you. If not,

then the direction of her eyes will show who is in her mind.

More Touch, Smiles, And Laughter

A person who is starting to fall for you would listen to you more, thus would give more

reactions than he or she did during your first dates. There would be more laughter even for

the cheesiest jokes. While talking, one will find in inevitable from smiling, especially

during silence. This is because that person is truly enjoying his or her time with you.

He or she would also touch you from time to time. A tap on the shoulder, placing the hand on

the small of the back, hugging, and holding the hands are some of the most common touching

body language in falling in love.

The Mirroring Actions

This is a funny yet very sweet signal of attraction since it is done unconsciously most of

the time. This is where a person would imitate the actions of that special person. For

example, you will prop your chin onto your hand, the person in love with you will follow

that specific action.

The Longer Stare

A person in love with you simply cannot take his eyes off you. Most especially when the

feeling has just begun to develop, he or she would find difficulty in concentrating on other

things. The stare is usually intimate or intense, and it is accompanied with a slight smile.

That Certain Glow

Somehow unexplainable, a person has a certain aura around him or her when he or she is in

love and happy. It is due to the extreme happiness and joy coming from the inside, and this

is well-reflected with a sparkle in the eyes and a smile that is hard to remove from the

face.

When a person falls in love, it changes him entirely and this is reflected in his or her

body language. Some people fail to notice this, but these signs are definitely there. The

person himself is even unaware that he is already providing hints and clues about his true

feelings for that special someone. Most people find them hard to miss, and would love these

signals of deep attraction sent through the silence but delivered by simple romantic actions

and gestures.

Body language involves many gestures and movements, and each one with different meanings. It

is a  complex method of communicating. But the art of body language is that when you learn

the interpretations and indications of different body signals, you are able to determine

one’s inner feelings and emotions. Thus you can control the situation by knowing how to

react in advance.

Eye Contact

When one can maintain the eye contact and even prolong it, it is indicative that his focus

of attention is in listening to the other person. The inability to maintain it has many

meanings, depending on the situation. When there is sudden breakage of eye contact and the

eye wanders off to another direction, it may mean that he is distracted by a certain object,

like another person entering the room. It may also mean that he is losing interest, getting

bored, and would like to get out of the conversation.

The eyes are also used in flirting, especially in knowing if the person is attracted to you

or not. When your eyes meet across the room, and then one of you looks aways but looks back,

it is a signal of attraction. It is also reflected when the eyes would go down to the lips

and then back to the eyes again.

If the eyes would look up to the forehead of another person, it means he is talking to

someone with superiority. When the eye would go down to the nose, it means that there are no

figure of authority in both parties.

Handshakes

There are two meanings of handshakes. It can show confidence, or the exact opposite,

shyness. Confidence is evident in a firm handshake with the hand pointing downward. The

palms should also come in contact with each other. On the other hand, a weak handshake with

the hand pointing upward indicates shyness or nervousness.

Hand And Arm Gestures

The two most common hand and arm gestures that are advised to be avoided are putting the

hands in the pocket and arm crossing. The first gesture, hands in the pocket, may indicate

four things: he may be hiding something, bored and uninterested, refusing to perform a task,

or nervous and anxious.

The latter gesture, crossing the arms across the chest may mean three things. The person may

be protecting from a verbal attack, simply feeling cold, or even probably lying. But it may

also indicate that he is disagreeing with you if you are the one talking.

Another common hand gesture is the clenched fist. This indicates anger, frustration,

defensiveness, resistance, or confidence.

When Sitting Down And Standing Up

Your emotions can also be reflected by the way you stand or sit. Proper posture is with the

shoulders squared and pulled back, but without too much tightening of the back muscles. With

the back muscle rigid and stiff, you will appear very tense and nervous. Do not slouch as

well. Slouching signifies laziness or boredom.

It is indeed beneficial if you know how to decipher the meanings of another person’s body

language. However, the indications are not true at all times. Not all impressions from

reading body language last. This will only be supportive if you already have an idea on the

personality of the person.

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