The Secrets and Tips In Body Language
Studying and learning how to read and understand body language could give you three
advantages: (1) ability to control the situation, (2) know what others are thinking and
intend to say, and lastly, (3) know how to express without the use of words.
Through body language, you can impress other people, detect lying, and even know if somebody
is flirting with you. This article discusses what gestures are usually used in certain
situation and body gestures and movements that you must avoid.
How To Be Impressive
You can impress you boss, an interviewer, co-worker, and other people by simply showing that
you are confident through your actions, such as handshakes, posture, proper use of eye
contact, and hand movements.
When shaking hands, make sure it is firm and your palm will come in contact with the palm of
the other person. Make an eye contact for about two to three seconds and smile slightly.
Maintain a good posture. When standing up, refrain from putting your hands in your pocket or
crossing your arms. Meanwhile, when you are sitting down, down sit near the edge with your
back tensely straight. This indicates that you are very nervous. Do not slouch as well.
Simply relax into the chair without tightening your back muscles.
When conversing, maintain eye contact to make an impression that you are indeed interested
and attentive to what the person is saying. If you are hesitant to prolong eye contact, the
trick is to simply look on the bridge of the nose of the person. You may use hand movements
when talking. The person you are talking to will think that you really know what you are
talking about.
How You Can Detect Lying
A person lying is easy to determine through his eyes. When he cannot look straight into your
eyes or is frequently removing his eyes from you, it means that he is being dishonest and
may be hiding something. He would also tend to touch himself unconsciously. He would scratch
his forehead, cover the mouth, or rub the nose. These are signs of discomfort due to the
situation of lying.
Other signs indicative of lying are sweating, fidgeting, trembling, speech errors, body
stiffness, and the like. However, people nowadays are already oriented that they will be
caught lying when they cannot prolong eye contact; thus they try to maintain calm and
prolong eye contact to cover up their lies.
Is She Or He Flirting?
The eyes can always send a signal of attraction. Intense, prolonged eye contact is one
flirting signal, as well as the three-step eye contact. When one caught the eye of the
other, he looks away, and then back again, it is a sure sign of attraction. Another common
flirting signal that both men and women observe is smiling and preening.
Men flirt by showing their masculinity by standing tall and squaring their shoulders.
Meanwhile, women loves to tease by tossing their hair, licking their lips, and showing some
bare skin.
Acts Of Body Language You Must Avoid
These are negative signs that you should start avoiding when interacting with somebody:
looking at the watch or clock and fingernails, crossing the arms, putting the hands in the
pocket, holding objects in front of you, stroking the chin, squinting, forcing a smile,
placing hands on the waist, rubbing the nape, slouching, tapping the foot, and the like.
Body language can truly send signals of emotions and state of mind. One needs only to learn
how to understand how one acts in order to determine what is really going on in the mind of
that person. That is the art of learning the secrets behind body language.
